This is the concluding part of our article on cougar dating, part 1 can be found here.
Ensuring that you are the right date
You have to remember that just as no two young women are the same, every cougar is different from each other and have varied expectations from every young man they meet or talk to. Some of them may just wish to have a boyfriend they can flaunt on occasions like a trophy and others may just be looking for a rollicking sexual experience with a younger man. You have to judge the situation and adapt your behaviour accordingly. In the former case, you need to demonstrate your capabilities and potential to fulfil her desire for a boyfriend over a longer period of time and you must make it a point to discuss things that are of equal interest to her, rather than vacillating about any of your favourites. It is important to convey to such cougars that you are worth your weight in gold in terms of intellect and the ability to hold a decent conversation as this is something she would expect when she takes you to events and gatherings.
In the case of cougars wanting a gratifying sexual experience, you have to project your self as an active, athletic person with a lot of stamina and vitality. These women like fit young men and you have to make sure that you convey this to them. You must stay clear of staid topics like religion, politics and talk about energetic activity like sports and how you regularly enjoy your self playing some of the sports. While it is a fact that many young men also wish to date cougars in the expectation of getting a good lay with a mature woman, there is a need to project that vitality and enthusiasm for physical activity, which will impress such women and help such men secure that date.
Finally, it is very important not to mention the difference in age or talk about you fulfilling your fantasy. That is a sure put off for the cougar and you may end up losing the date. Only if you can convey the fantasy part in such a manner that you make the cougar feel privileged and special, should you venture to discuss it. Some humor and suggestive talk that has the potential to make them look forward to the association with you would be ideal and is the right way to proceed.
Your first date with a cougar – how do you make it special?
This depends on how you have come across the cougar. If you have met her online, then a bar would be the right place to catch up on conversation and uncover details about her self and you. That is because, you do not know how she looks and it is not practical to commit yourself to more than a couple of hours by taking her for a meal. If however, you have known her and seen her before, then it is best to take her for a drink or meal where you can spend time getting to know more about her. Make sure that you do not opt for a noisy bar where you have to shout to make your self heard and also avoid places that are likely to be frequented by your friends as that can be very distracting.
Table manners are another sensitive area that you must remember to follow on a dinner date as cougars typically belong to an era which lay a lot of stress on proper etiquette and manners. Some of the things you must avoid are speaking with a lot of food in your mouth, keeping your elbows clear of the table and of course, please keep away from the spaghetti.
A cougar, despite being financially well off will still expect chivalry. So be the first to fish out your wallet and offer to make the payment. This will indicate to her that you desire her for not her money, but for what she is and that will be greatly reassuring to her.
The above tips should help you land a good cougar date, which you would cherish for a long time.