Taking A Peek To The Forbidden World Of BDSM

BDSM has a few different meanings, yet we are now going to talk about the kinkiest of all, which defines a combination of terms: bondage with discipline, dominance with submission and sadism with masochism. With other words, it is not just a sexual practice, but a mixture involving role playing and a few controversial techniques that in any other circumstances may not be perceived as pleasurable.

It is definitely about adult dating, but the very naughty one, the type of experiences that go out of the regular patterns and try to derive arousal from the most unexpected circumstances. As the role playing was already mentioned, it becomes obvious that particular roles are included and they are generally defined depending on the type of action performed.

Therefore, BDSM involves dominants, submissives and switches, with dominants being the ones that initiate the activity and that exercise control on their partners, submissives the ones that are subjected to the action and kept under control by their partners and switches the ones that often switch roles.

With BDSM, even though all types of sexual intercourse can be involved, the whole décor and the special tools that used are the ones that provide sexual pleasure, regardless whether humiliation, inflicting pain or just being restrained is the cause of pleasure.

Using handcuffs and thumbcuffs, slave collars, leashes and flagellation might make you think of sexual assault, but there is a huge difference in between these two concepts. In a few words, such sexual practices take place with the mutual consent of the two partners, by subjecting to a particular motto like “safe, sane and consensual” or “risk aware consensual kink” and with mandatory establishing a safe word that should immediately end the activity. All of them are designed to set boundaries so that no one will get hurt and pleasure to be the only one deriving.

Contrary to all expectations, BDSM is not about pain, but about having power, humiliating others and experiencing pleasure from all these. Pinching or biting, spanking and scratching with the fingernails, experiencing new sensations while using ice cubes and wax or anything else that turns you on and breaks the patterns of the so called vanilla sex can be included. After all, the repertoire is endless and a couple can take advantage of pretty much anything as long as they trust each other and they actually get aroused by such practices.

Like with any other type of adult dating experiences, BDSM can be used by couples involved in casual dating but also by those that are in a long term relationship. The difference would be represented by the fact that being the dominant player involves a lot more responsibility than being a submissive and, therefore, the interest for this position is lower among partners that do not know each other very well. As a consequence, BDSM is often played by seriously committed partners, even though it does not have to be a rule.

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